So you’re dating, or thinking of dating a Colombian man or woman? Whether you are in Colombia or have met a Colombian who now lives abroad, here is all you need to know about dating a Colombian!
DATING A COLOMBIAN – COLOMBIAN DATING CULTURE
Colombians love dancing and music!
If you are dating a Colombian you should learn how to dance! Dancing is in their blood and a big part of the Colombian culture, and if you’re dating a Colombian they’ll often want to take you out dancing or to social events where people dance. Learn the basic steps of salsa and listen to some Colombian music.
Colombians have pride in their roots, and are really passionate about Colombian music too. Popular reggaeton artists from Medellin, Colombia include Maluma, J Balvin, Piso 21 and Feid. For Colombians, their music is a way to connect with others and to express their emotions. Listen to some Colombian music to get familiar with the culture. One Colombian pop singer you should definitely know is of course Shakira. Here you’ll find a playlist of current popular Colombian songs and artists.
Colombians are very direct
For many people who are dating a Colombian, this is actually such a blessing to be dealing with someone so direct. In the Colombian dating culture you’ll rarely find yourself second guessing whether they like you, or find them to be game playing when it comes to dating. If a Colombian likes you, then you’ll know about it. You won’t be sat there wondering when they will message you back. If a Colombian is into you they’re not going to beat around the bush.
Not all Colombians are the same though, and like in any culture you will find the bad boy ‘players’ as well as people just looking for a fling, especially with a foreigner. Don’t immediately show your interest or cave too quickly as it will make them work harder. Keep the control and you’ll soon realise if they are really into you, or are just promiscuous and after something easy.
Being direct applies not only to the start of the relationship, but the whole way through. If I am doing something to annoy my Colombian boyfriend, he will tell me. They aren’t like us British who will drop small hints in the hope their partner will pick up on what they are thinking as they are scared incase the other person may get offended. If something is bothering a Colombian, they will say it outright.
Even if your Colombian partner speaks perfect English, chances are that their family back in Colombia won’t, as English isn’t widely spoken in Colombia. Luckily for you though, Colombian Spanish is one of the easiest types of Spanish to understand as they actually speak a lot clearer than speakers of other Spanish speaking countries. By learning Spanish, you’ll get a greater insight into their culture and be able to communicate with their loved ones, which should be a priority if you see your relationship lasting. Here you’ll find some top tips for learning a foreign language.
Colombians are very family orientated
You’ll quickly realise when you start dating a Colombian man or woman that family is really important in the Colombian culture. Colombians are extremely family orientated and spend a lot of time with both their immediate family and their extended family. Fortunately, Colombians are very friendly and if you are dating or marry a member of their family, they will happily welcome you into the family with open arms like one of their own.
Colombians love Colombian food
Colombian men and women are very passionate about Colombian food, and if you’re dating a Colombia they’ll most likely introduce you to some yummy Colombian dishes early, such as arepa, bandeja paisa, empanadas or lechona.
DATING A COLOMBIAN MAN!
Colombians are really romantic
If you are dating a Colombian man, expect to be showered with sweet nick-names like mi amor, princesa, preciosa, hermosa, linda, reina several times a day. Colombians are very passionate and affectionate – the men in particular, and definitely won’t think twice about kissing you in public as they are big on public displays of affection.
DATING A COLOMBIAN WOMAN!
Most Colombian women are into their appearance a lot
Many Colombian women are concerned with always looking their best and take a while to get ready. A large percentage of Colombian women will have had boob jobs, and even the mature women aged 50+ still religiously visit the beauty salons to get their acrylic nails and highlights done. Even if they are just going to the shops, makeup is seen as essential for many Colombian women.
Other important things to know about the Colombian culture when dating a Colombian man or woman:
- The Colombian people will traditionally celebrate their own version of Valentines Day in September, on the Day of Love & Friendship.
- Colombians traditionally celebrate Christmas on December 24th evening.
- Colombians are usually very positive, authentic and have a great sense of humour.
- Generally when in Colombia, there are many more more relationships and marriages between a Colombian woman with a foreigner, as opposed to a Colombian man with a foreigner.
CHALLENGES OF DATING A COLOMBIAN MAN OR WOMAN
Whilst dating a Colombian man or woman certainly has it’s up sides, it doesn’t mean there are no challenges to be faced when dating a Colombian. Here are some of the most common ones:
- Whilst Colombians are usually very happy people, they can also be quite emotional, expressive, sensitive and stubborn, and can seem to make a drama out of something that appears quite minor.
- Colombians are definitely not the most punctual of people, and their sense of time can be a little fluid to say the least. If you arrange to meet at a certain time, more often than not you’ll find the Colombian late (well pretty much always). Even if you phone them to see where they are, they’ll often say they’re ‘on their way’ when they haven’t even left the house yet, or they’ll ‘be 5 minutes’ when it will clearly be longer than that. Take their time keeping skills with a grain of salt (or just tell them a time much earlier than you will get there, knowing that they will arrive later) as they can often arrive an hour late or even longer! Just don’t have the expectation they will be on time, and always bring something to occupy you whilst you are waiting for them to turn up!
Having a cross-cultural relationship can be challenging due to the many different cultural traditions and norms, but it can also be incredibly rewarding and exciting if you learn to embrace your differences! Have you dated or are dating a Colombian? If you are and your relationship with your Colombian is getting serious, you may want to read this article on Colombian wedding traditions to prepare you for the big day!